And guess what? Mine doesn't belong to you either.
Now first and foremost, since I'm gay, I honestly don't give a shit about women's bodies or what they do with them. I never have (well, unless they were self-harming then yeah I would try to help them stop doing that). But what I want to address is this notion that men feel entitled to women's bodies. With all the social media posts, online articles, and YouTube rants on this topic, I could honestly wallpaper an entire 10,000-square foot home with what's been said, but this is the basic narrative/argument: men don't value women's bodies and their autonomy, the patriarchy constantly objectifies women and ingrains the idea that they only exist for male pleasure/satisfaction (aka the "male gaze"), women are in constant fear for their safety because men might attack them (or, heaven forbid, be catcalled, whistled, or hollered at), and that instead of telling criminals not to be criminals, society unfairly tells women to use self-defensive methods in order to thwart potential predators. This narrative is everywhere, the whole "I don't do this for you/I don't belong to you" trope has been repeated so many times it has become pervasive among social media and discussion topics related to gender. So, as a living and breathing man, this is my response to the authors of these diatribes.
Honeys, I have news for you. Men have shit to do, and your body is not on the list. Men have houses to build, roads to tear up and rebuild, cars to fix, crops to grow, windows to wash, trash to collect, oils rigs to attend to, ditches to dig, sewers to work, papers to push, numbers to crunch, businesses to run, trucks to drive, mail to deliver, students to teach, technology to create and perfect, medicine to create and perfect, sermons to preach, fires to put out, sports to play, and music to perform and compose, wars to fight, and people to save. They have wives, girlfriends, daughters, sisters, aunts, mothers, grandmothers, female cousins, and female friends that they love and support. We fucking know that your bodies don't belong to us, and quite frankly, we don't want them as much as you think we do. You continually cherry pick the (relative) few bad apples in the bunch in order to push this fallacy that men think they're entitled to women, when the reality is that the majority of men value your autonomy and do just fine without your body. The individuals who are harassing others on the street are the ones with the problem: not society, and not men. And while you are blithely unaware of the fact that men are more likely to be killed, assaulted, and receive threats of violence online and in real life, you constantly bring up trivial concerns like whistling, locker room banter, and unwanted comments/attention on the street in order to prove that there's a "war on women". Well, I'm not buying it, and I'm not feeding into it anymore. Not because of my toxic masculinity, but because the facts don't support your narrative.
You want to talk bodies and entitlement? Let's start with the men who have been slaughtered in war in order for you to maintain your civil liberties and the right to demonize an entire gender based on the actions of individuals who don't represent that whole. Not to mention that a good portion of those men didn't even want to fight in those wars, but were required to do so because men in this country are automatically required to sign up for the selective service when they turn 18. If they don't sign up, they face fines and/or jail time, they can't drive, they can't work, they can't vote, and they can't receive federal aid. From the moment men are born, they get their genitals mutilated without their consent, and from the moment they turn 18, their bodies belong to the state. We do not value a man's body and autonomy because whenever men are abused, raped, or sexually harassed, no one takes it seriously (all men really want is sex, right? men can just fight off an abusive partner, right? men can just walk away from traumatic situations without emotional scars, right?). And if you want to keep screeching that women's bodies don't belong to men, well neither do their bodies or their labor. Men built the house you live in, the building you work in, the cellphone you use, the computer you use, the medicine you use, the internet you use, and the beds you sleep on. You have benefited from men's sacrifices and labor your entire life, so much so that it's expected, and their innumerable contributions to society are largely ignored in order to push the idea that men are the sole threat to women's safety. You willfully (and often times maliciously) stand on their back and eat the fruits of their labor just so you can whine about how awful they are. You repeatedly claim that only women understand the perils of sexual harassment and violence, that only women can have a valid opinion on anything gender related. You expect to have respect from everyone you meet and have the sole voice in gendered issues just because you have a vagina. That's entitlement.
Now to destroy the illusion that because I'm a man, I've never had to experience harassment or being objectified. I was the victim of sexual harassment for years in grade school. Yes it was humiliating. Yes I felt horrible about it. Yes I had to deal with the emotional strain of being talked to and acted upon in that manner. I know what it feels like, but guess what? No matter how many times I told my principals and teachers, no one ever did a damn thing about it. I would come home in tears to my parents begging them to home-school me so I wouldn't have to deal with my peers. I didn't have an article published in widely distributed newspapers or online media about how my body doesn't belong to anyone else. I didn't have a voice, and I never received an apology for it (or any of the numerous shitty things people have done to me for the past sixteen years). I don't blame society or an entire gender for what happened to me: I blame the individuals who touched me, shoved their asses in my face, flashed me, taunted me, and preyed on my vulnerability. I don't project my insecurities onto others because I realized that I couldn't be a victim forever. Eventually I had to swallow the harsh reality that no one, male or female, is safe out here.
Get off your pedestal and come back to Earth. Men are completely disposable while women have affirmative action laws, domestic abuse shelters, rape crisis centers, and women's resource centers. Women's issues are at the forefront of our society while men are being left behind for the interest of "gender equality". And while you may think you speak for all women, the harshest truth is that an increasing number of women are done with you infantilizing them and portraying them as helpless victims who are unable of fending for themselves without government intervention. More and more women are distancing themselves from you (and feminism in general) because you do not speak for them, their experiences, or their views and attitudes towards men and sexual harassment. These women are grown adults who don't feel the need to whine about every single instance of them being catcalled, or whistled at, or stared at, or just talked to on the street. I agree with these women, and the male population when I say that your ramblings are demeaning to women and insulting to men. No, men do not feel entitled to your bodies. No, we are not constantly thinking of ways to put you down, objectify you, or harass you. We are all trying to get by here, you are not special.
Wednesday, June 21, 2017
Monday, June 12, 2017
No Men Required: How Women Led Me To Men's Issues
Now, as many people know, I was once drowned in the liberal kool-aid. I believed in the wage gap, the patriarchy, male privilege, rape culture, and all of those things commonly taught at university. I even called myself a feminist, and was extremely apathetic towards men's issues (because, let's face it, the indoctrination at college doesn't include talking about problems that men face in society). Fast-forward to now: I know the wage gap isn't real, I don't believe in rape culture, I don't think there's a super societal structure keeping women down, and I actually care about men's rights. I no longer call myself a feminist (I prefer egalitarian), and I'm no longer liberal (granted I'm still left-of-center, but only by a slight margin).
What. The hell. Happened?
Did I let my male fragility get the best of me? Did my male privilege blind me to the hell-hole for human rights that is the United States? Did the patriarchy come to my door and brainwash me? No, no, and definitely no. I am totally serious when I say that absolutely no men were required in these socio-political changes. My bros didn't encourage me to start 'raping bitches' left and right, my wages weren't raised just because I was a man, I wasn't living the high life because the patriarchy ensured that my needs were highest on their priority list. Indeed, those responsible for the shift in my beliefs were women. Liberal women, conservative women, libertarian women, moderate women, black women, white women, women who were feminists, women who weren't feminists, women who were men's rights activists, and everywhere else in between. Now, I eventually was introduced to male figures (Armoured Skeptic, Steven Crowder, Gavin McInnes, Dave Rubin, etc) but this was after my point-of-view completely changed from where it was before. So I feel that it's important to highlight the women who put me on a path towards discovering men's issues and why men's rights are still important in 2017.
Shoe0nHead (https://www.youtube.com/user/Shoe0nHead)
The woman, the myth, the legend, the YouTube personality that started it all. My first encounter with her was a video she made about how there are only 2 genders (don't worry I'm not going into my reaction I just wanted to give you the jump-off point). So I watched more of her stuff and came across her video named "Feminism is about equality". In it, she made so many great points that I will recap here: feminists are so condescending to women who don't identify as feminist, the vast majority of men and women in the US don't identify as feminist (most believe in equality though), there are indeed many feminists who hate men, men get screwed over in divorce/child custody cases and get their genitals mutilated without consent--but somehow this isn't seen as systematic oppression even though it very clearly is--and just because your movement's intentions are good doesn't mean you're automatically absolved from any moral responsibility. Other highlights include "Internalized misogyny", "The pink tax", "Questions for men answered by woman", and "Domestic violence against men". Now back to the gender thing, in that same video Shoe also introduced me to a bigger influence on my transition towards men's issues.
Blaire White (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDmCBKaKOtOrEqgsL4-3C8Q)
Blaire White is a trans-woman who operates an anti-feminist, anti-SJW YouTube channel, where she discusses men's issues and other social topics such as Black Lives Matter. She is a funny woman who has so many good videos it's hard to say which is the best. But in falling down her rabbit hole there were some very strong highlights: "Feminism simplified", "There is no rape culture...stop", "MTV Hates men (unless they're trans)", "Feminists don't hate men?", "Tumblr vomit", and "Triggered to death by Milo Yiannopoulos". Now in addition to Blaire's very strong arguments about why being a man isn't an easy ride, she brought up important facts like men are the most likely victims of every single violent crime and that they're more likely to commit suicide. She also stressed the very important fact that there are male and female brains, and that societal conditioning really has little effect on our natural behaviors since so much of our behavior is governed by our biological make-up. That became an important thread through the rest of my research into women against feminism.
Christina Hoff Sommers (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3TR_YuDFIFI)
Otherwise known as Based Mom, CHS is a feminist, but one that not only supports men, but has brought to light many of the issues facing them. Through this woman, my world really started opening up as I learned that men are more likely to die on the job, men are more likely to be homeless, men are being falsely accused of rape more frequently, and that not only does the "patriarchy" not hate women, but women are more likely to go to college and get a degree, women are exceeding men in education at every level, and that women fresh out of college don't make less than men, they make more. Christina has been a very open critic about modern feminism because of its demonization of men and masculinity (which she explores in her books "Who Stole Feminism?" and "The War on Boys"), as well its promotion of false wage gap statistics, rape statistics, and general dishonesty in saying that women are completely powerless in society, when in fact they are just as capable of success and power as men. She also helped me differentiate between 'equity' feminists like her and Camille Paglia, and 'gender' feminists like Gloria Steinem and Andrea Dworkin. This is when I really started to notice the extreme cognitive dissonance between what we think the world is like and what feminism means within it. CHS helped me become woke, but not as much as these next two women.
Karen Straughan (https://www.youtube.com/user/girlwriteswhat)
Karen is a men's rights activists and is part of a group known as the "Honey Badgers" (women who fight for men's rights). This woman is amazing, and she blew the top off society's actual treatment of men. Video highlights include "Feminism and the disposable male", "How feminism conned society", "Feminism, y'all gotta own this shit", "Feminist shaming tactics", "The tyranny of female hypoagency", and "Toxic Masculinity and TOXIC FEMININITY". She is a very eloquent speaker, and she presents her ideas in the most clear and honest way, that I really started to understand that men actually don't have it so good, that feminism exploits behaviors and attitudes we already have towards women (such as catering to their needs, their survival, and their identity), and that men value companionship, fatherhood, intellect, and loyalty far more than we give them credit for. Honestly, she is just awesome, not because she's an advocate for men, but because she points out that caring about men's issues and being a misogynist are not in any way related, and that men's rights activists are not a hate group meant to oppress women and/or pull focus away from women's issues. She simply wants men back in the cultural conversation towards gender.
Cassie Jaye (https://www.youtube.com/user/Cassiejaye)
This is the woman who cemented my interest in men's rights. She is the director of "The Red Pill", the controversial movie about the men's rights movement that feminists have been vehemently protesting since its release earlier this year. She fully explored why there needs to be a movement for men if they supposedly have every single advantage in life granted to them by the patriarchy. But what I saw wasn't a damning portrait of men, it was an eye-opening experience about how awful men can be treated in our society--and no one does a damn thing about it. She helped me see that if America really is an oppressive patriarchy completely catered to the needs of men: they're doing a shit job of showing it. Men are 43% of all domestic abuse victims, but there is only one shelter in the US that doesn't turn away male victims. Men are more likely to be homeless, men make up the majority of combat deaths, men are the majority of the drug addicted, and male rape is not a rare occurrence. Karen Straughan also makes a cameo in the film where she makes a solid point: if feminism isn't about hating men, then why is the source of everything evil known as the "patriarchy" (male connotations), whereas the saving grace of our society is "feminism" (female connotations)? Cassie Jaye was so moved by what she found out, that she stopped calling herself a feminist. And now knowing what I do, I see why.
Like I said, these women are just the major figures, but I HIGHLY encourage you to look-up these ladies as well: Erin Pizzey, Lauren Southern, Roaming Millennial, Julie Borowski, Peach Balie, Kisara Vera, Whitney Dahlin, Toxic Femininity, Barbara4u2c, ABitofBritt, RageAfterStorm, MyNameIsJosephine, and most definitely Camille Paglia.
I am very sad when I look back at how hateful I used to be towards my own gender. But I see that male struggles are valid and need to be addressed. I'm also sad that women have to be the ones fighting for our rights in order for anyone to take them somewhat seriously. Because, as it is very clearly shown in "The Red Pill", whenever men talk about men's issues they're accused of having "male fragility", "internalized misogyny", "toxic masculinity", and are "racist, sexist, anti-gay". I hope to help men who are suffering in any way I can, because knowing what I do now, I can no longer turn my back and pretend they don't exist.
What. The hell. Happened?
Did I let my male fragility get the best of me? Did my male privilege blind me to the hell-hole for human rights that is the United States? Did the patriarchy come to my door and brainwash me? No, no, and definitely no. I am totally serious when I say that absolutely no men were required in these socio-political changes. My bros didn't encourage me to start 'raping bitches' left and right, my wages weren't raised just because I was a man, I wasn't living the high life because the patriarchy ensured that my needs were highest on their priority list. Indeed, those responsible for the shift in my beliefs were women. Liberal women, conservative women, libertarian women, moderate women, black women, white women, women who were feminists, women who weren't feminists, women who were men's rights activists, and everywhere else in between. Now, I eventually was introduced to male figures (Armoured Skeptic, Steven Crowder, Gavin McInnes, Dave Rubin, etc) but this was after my point-of-view completely changed from where it was before. So I feel that it's important to highlight the women who put me on a path towards discovering men's issues and why men's rights are still important in 2017.
Shoe0nHead (https://www.youtube.com/user/Shoe0nHead)
The woman, the myth, the legend, the YouTube personality that started it all. My first encounter with her was a video she made about how there are only 2 genders (don't worry I'm not going into my reaction I just wanted to give you the jump-off point). So I watched more of her stuff and came across her video named "Feminism is about equality". In it, she made so many great points that I will recap here: feminists are so condescending to women who don't identify as feminist, the vast majority of men and women in the US don't identify as feminist (most believe in equality though), there are indeed many feminists who hate men, men get screwed over in divorce/child custody cases and get their genitals mutilated without consent--but somehow this isn't seen as systematic oppression even though it very clearly is--and just because your movement's intentions are good doesn't mean you're automatically absolved from any moral responsibility. Other highlights include "Internalized misogyny", "The pink tax", "Questions for men answered by woman", and "Domestic violence against men". Now back to the gender thing, in that same video Shoe also introduced me to a bigger influence on my transition towards men's issues.
Blaire White (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDmCBKaKOtOrEqgsL4-3C8Q)
Blaire White is a trans-woman who operates an anti-feminist, anti-SJW YouTube channel, where she discusses men's issues and other social topics such as Black Lives Matter. She is a funny woman who has so many good videos it's hard to say which is the best. But in falling down her rabbit hole there were some very strong highlights: "Feminism simplified", "There is no rape culture...stop", "MTV Hates men (unless they're trans)", "Feminists don't hate men?", "Tumblr vomit", and "Triggered to death by Milo Yiannopoulos". Now in addition to Blaire's very strong arguments about why being a man isn't an easy ride, she brought up important facts like men are the most likely victims of every single violent crime and that they're more likely to commit suicide. She also stressed the very important fact that there are male and female brains, and that societal conditioning really has little effect on our natural behaviors since so much of our behavior is governed by our biological make-up. That became an important thread through the rest of my research into women against feminism.
Christina Hoff Sommers (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3TR_YuDFIFI)
Otherwise known as Based Mom, CHS is a feminist, but one that not only supports men, but has brought to light many of the issues facing them. Through this woman, my world really started opening up as I learned that men are more likely to die on the job, men are more likely to be homeless, men are being falsely accused of rape more frequently, and that not only does the "patriarchy" not hate women, but women are more likely to go to college and get a degree, women are exceeding men in education at every level, and that women fresh out of college don't make less than men, they make more. Christina has been a very open critic about modern feminism because of its demonization of men and masculinity (which she explores in her books "Who Stole Feminism?" and "The War on Boys"), as well its promotion of false wage gap statistics, rape statistics, and general dishonesty in saying that women are completely powerless in society, when in fact they are just as capable of success and power as men. She also helped me differentiate between 'equity' feminists like her and Camille Paglia, and 'gender' feminists like Gloria Steinem and Andrea Dworkin. This is when I really started to notice the extreme cognitive dissonance between what we think the world is like and what feminism means within it. CHS helped me become woke, but not as much as these next two women.
Karen Straughan (https://www.youtube.com/user/girlwriteswhat)
Karen is a men's rights activists and is part of a group known as the "Honey Badgers" (women who fight for men's rights). This woman is amazing, and she blew the top off society's actual treatment of men. Video highlights include "Feminism and the disposable male", "How feminism conned society", "Feminism, y'all gotta own this shit", "Feminist shaming tactics", "The tyranny of female hypoagency", and "Toxic Masculinity and TOXIC FEMININITY". She is a very eloquent speaker, and she presents her ideas in the most clear and honest way, that I really started to understand that men actually don't have it so good, that feminism exploits behaviors and attitudes we already have towards women (such as catering to their needs, their survival, and their identity), and that men value companionship, fatherhood, intellect, and loyalty far more than we give them credit for. Honestly, she is just awesome, not because she's an advocate for men, but because she points out that caring about men's issues and being a misogynist are not in any way related, and that men's rights activists are not a hate group meant to oppress women and/or pull focus away from women's issues. She simply wants men back in the cultural conversation towards gender.
Cassie Jaye (https://www.youtube.com/user/Cassiejaye)
This is the woman who cemented my interest in men's rights. She is the director of "The Red Pill", the controversial movie about the men's rights movement that feminists have been vehemently protesting since its release earlier this year. She fully explored why there needs to be a movement for men if they supposedly have every single advantage in life granted to them by the patriarchy. But what I saw wasn't a damning portrait of men, it was an eye-opening experience about how awful men can be treated in our society--and no one does a damn thing about it. She helped me see that if America really is an oppressive patriarchy completely catered to the needs of men: they're doing a shit job of showing it. Men are 43% of all domestic abuse victims, but there is only one shelter in the US that doesn't turn away male victims. Men are more likely to be homeless, men make up the majority of combat deaths, men are the majority of the drug addicted, and male rape is not a rare occurrence. Karen Straughan also makes a cameo in the film where she makes a solid point: if feminism isn't about hating men, then why is the source of everything evil known as the "patriarchy" (male connotations), whereas the saving grace of our society is "feminism" (female connotations)? Cassie Jaye was so moved by what she found out, that she stopped calling herself a feminist. And now knowing what I do, I see why.
Like I said, these women are just the major figures, but I HIGHLY encourage you to look-up these ladies as well: Erin Pizzey, Lauren Southern, Roaming Millennial, Julie Borowski, Peach Balie, Kisara Vera, Whitney Dahlin, Toxic Femininity, Barbara4u2c, ABitofBritt, RageAfterStorm, MyNameIsJosephine, and most definitely Camille Paglia.
I am very sad when I look back at how hateful I used to be towards my own gender. But I see that male struggles are valid and need to be addressed. I'm also sad that women have to be the ones fighting for our rights in order for anyone to take them somewhat seriously. Because, as it is very clearly shown in "The Red Pill", whenever men talk about men's issues they're accused of having "male fragility", "internalized misogyny", "toxic masculinity", and are "racist, sexist, anti-gay". I hope to help men who are suffering in any way I can, because knowing what I do now, I can no longer turn my back and pretend they don't exist.
Friday, June 9, 2017
5 Things You Can Do To Make Sure Trump Isn't Re-Elected
Now, assuming Trump isn't impeached before 2020 (everyone's doing their darndest to make this happen, but let's just assume he isn't for this exercise), here are five things you can do to make sure he doesn't retain the oval office in the next election:
1. Be Even More Condescending
Moral superiority is the best way to ensure equality, so whenever someone doesn't identify as a feminist, liberal, atheist, or social justice warrior, you need to get up on your pedestal and talk down to them like they're three-year old children. Educate them on how not subscribing to ideologies you identify with means they're a bad person and why they shouldn't think the way they do (but remember to throw in "this is for equality" so people won't think you're actually just being a douchebag to people you disagree with!)
2. Virtue-Signal Like You Never Have Before
Since there are so many racist, sexist, elitist, classist, misogynistic, homophobic, transphobic Nazi bigots out in America right now, it's important to show them what GOOD people think and do. Constantly talk about how good of a person you are, and how being a feminist/liberal/social justice warrior/atheist is really the only way to be a good person. Making people feel ashamed for what they believe in, how they talk, and how they move about the world is definitely going to make them steer away from voting Trump (because, as we all know, if you're not a feminist/liberal/social justice warrior/atheist, you're automatically a racist, sexist, elitist, classist, misogynistic, homophobic, transphobic Nazi bigot. There is absolutely NO in-between)
3. Make More Blanket Judgments
Now, since you took a four-month longfeminist propaganda gender studies course, as well as a four-month long white guilt sociology course, you're clearly an encyclopedia for how everyone acts and thinks in American society. You need to call people out and hammer in the message that all white people are racist, all men are misogynistic, all cis-people are transphobic, all religious people hate atheists, and that all conservatives are racist, sexist, elitist, classist, misogynistic, homophobic, transphobic Nazi bigots. You know everything about a person based solely on their skin color and gender (some people might call that "racist" and "sexist", but as we've already discussed, your moral superiority means that you're justified and those who disagree with you just need to shut the fuck up). Equality is all about assumptions and telling people to "check their privilege". Which brings me to my next point
4. Tell People To "Check Their Privilege" Even More
It's obvious that only straight, white, cisgendered Christian males voted for Trump, because anyone who knows anything knows that his policies won't ever affect them. This is why you need to let men know thatthey're the most likely victim of every single violent crime they're more likely to commit suicide they're more likely to be homeless they're more likely to be incarcerated and receive harsher prison sentences 1 in 1 American women is raped every single day because the patriarchy enforces rape culture. You need to let white people know that Asian-Americans outperform every single race in terms of success, wealth, and education white men commit suicide more than any other racial demographic police brutality only affects people of color, due to the white supremacist Christian male patriarchy building the US to ensure white people (especially men) get an easy ride through life and that their needs are number one. Even if you don't personally know any of the people that you're telling to check their privilege, you already know every single thing about their lives based solely on their skin color and gender, so you can do no wrong.
5. Preach Equality and Diversity
Lastly, it's just so apparent that people didn't vote for Hillary because she was aliar corporate sellout greedy, negligent, identity-politics playing shill woman. This kind of misogyny is not acceptable in (insert current year here)! The US is just a hell-hole for human rights (yeah, third world countries are poorer, more war-torn, less accepting of diversity, and shorter on resources than we are, but that doesn't really fit the narrative so let's keep moving), so we need to make it our duty to make America a more inclusive and diverse society for all (and yes Affirmative Action laws, the Civil Rights Act, and the Equal Pay Act have all been in place since the 1960s, and hate crime statutes are all around the country to help make sure we're a diverse and accepting society but social justice doesn't care about logic and facts so shut up). Now, this doesn't mean we need diversity of thought, because as we've already covered, the only acceptable people are liberal, feminist, atheist, trans-gendered and LGBTQIA+. Everyone else is a racist, sexist, elitist, classist, misogynistic, homophobic, transphobic Nazi bigot and we must make sure to eradicate them from this country. Because that's what tolerance is, only surrounding yourself with people who identify with everything you do, and shaming, bullying, x-communicating, race-baiting, gender-baiting, and demonizing everyone else that has a different worldview.
If we take these steps, Trump will get his orange-colored ass booted from the white house in no time. Let's go my fellowwhiny petulant children condescending, judgmental, snobby academic liberal elitists fascists who are lack the cognitive ability to realize that they're more hateful than the people they're fighting against anti-fascists! The white, straight, Christian, cis-male oppressive patriarchy doesn't stand a chance against our wrath whining cry-bullying bigotry racism sexism battle cry for peace!
1. Be Even More Condescending
Moral superiority is the best way to ensure equality, so whenever someone doesn't identify as a feminist, liberal, atheist, or social justice warrior, you need to get up on your pedestal and talk down to them like they're three-year old children. Educate them on how not subscribing to ideologies you identify with means they're a bad person and why they shouldn't think the way they do (but remember to throw in "this is for equality" so people won't think you're actually just being a douchebag to people you disagree with!)
2. Virtue-Signal Like You Never Have Before
Since there are so many racist, sexist, elitist, classist, misogynistic, homophobic, transphobic Nazi bigots out in America right now, it's important to show them what GOOD people think and do. Constantly talk about how good of a person you are, and how being a feminist/liberal/social justice warrior/atheist is really the only way to be a good person. Making people feel ashamed for what they believe in, how they talk, and how they move about the world is definitely going to make them steer away from voting Trump (because, as we all know, if you're not a feminist/liberal/social justice warrior/atheist, you're automatically a racist, sexist, elitist, classist, misogynistic, homophobic, transphobic Nazi bigot. There is absolutely NO in-between)
3. Make More Blanket Judgments
Now, since you took a four-month long
4. Tell People To "Check Their Privilege" Even More
It's obvious that only straight, white, cisgendered Christian males voted for Trump, because anyone who knows anything knows that his policies won't ever affect them. This is why you need to let men know that
5. Preach Equality and Diversity
Lastly, it's just so apparent that people didn't vote for Hillary because she was a
If we take these steps, Trump will get his orange-colored ass booted from the white house in no time. Let's go my fellow
Saturday, April 1, 2017
The Wage Gap
Have you ever heard the axiom "If you say something enough times, it becomes true"? Well nowhere is that statement more appropriate than in regards to the wage gap. I know you've heard the statistic "Women make 77 cents for every man's dollar" at least once in your lifetime, and you best believe modern feminists and SJWs use this statement as proof that the "white male oppressive patriarchy" really exists. How could it not if women get paid less than men for the exact same work?
Well, here's the thing about that 77 cents per every dollar statistic: there's a LOT it doesn't tell you. First and foremost, this figure was calculated by dividing the average yearly earnings of women and men working full time. It did not take into account occupations, different job positions, education, or hours worked per week. In fact, the feminist organization American Association of University Women (AAUW) found that when you take all of these factors into account, the pay-gap shrinks to 93.4 cents. Since that number represents an average, that means it is a median between higher and lower numbers, which means that--gasp--there are women who make 1 dollar for every 1 dollar a man makes! The other 6.6 cents that women aren't making can be explained almost entirely from their own personal career choices.
Here are some of the important facts that are not being discussed in regards to women's earnings:
-Women generally work less hours than men
-Women generally take lower-paying positions than men
-Women generally major in lower-paying careers than men when studying at a university
-Women who start a family generally don't receive paid maternity leave (which, to be honest, is an issue of corporate greed, not sexism. If a man asked off for an extended period of time, you can bet that his company isn't going to pay him for not working)
These are all choices that women make, not the choices that the 'patriarchy' makes for them. Of course there are many people who will tell you that "internalized oppression" and "internalized misogyny" are what's keeping women from earning as much as men. Modern feminists and SJWs will insist that women's choices aren't truly free because they're so unaware of their own oppression. I think that this is an extremely unfair assertion to make, because I know for a fact that women are self-sufficient and determined enough to be equally successful (if not more) to any man. Assuming that they're not actually making free choices because society has conditioned them to be subservient to men is more toxic than the wage-gap myth itself. This ideology itself takes more power away from women then anything else, because it's essentially saying that any success (or lack thereof) a woman has in her life has already been predetermined by male oppression, not the result of her own volition, determination, mistakes, or personal setbacks that have absolutely nothing to do with men.
Now, in my "All Lives Matter" post I referenced the Equal Pay Act that was established in the 1960s, which is a federal law that forces companies to pay their workers equally, regardless of sex, race, religion, or sexual orientation. If a company is honestly paying you less than your male counterparts for the exact same job, then you have legal standing for a civil suit. However, also think about this: why would a company risk a lawsuit over something like the cost of labor? They care about that bottom line (not to mention their public image), and it would be a financial and social catastrophe if a woman called them out for breaking federal law.
Lastly, ask yourself this question: if a company could actually get away with paying women a lesser wage for the same amount of work that a man does, why wouldn't they just hire all women? Going back to that bottom line they care about, they'd save a fortune from the ease of the cost of labor (not to mention they'd increase efficiency) if this was possible. The truth is, is that it's not that simple. The wage gap isn't real, but the earnings gap certainly is. Even so, when you do consider the individual choices that women and men make while being educated for their career, seeking out work, and working full time, you'll find that the gap actually has nothing to do with discrimination. It has nothing to do with women 'not actually making their own free choices', and it has nothing to do with societal pressures or favoritism towards men. Women are perfectly capable of earning the same amount as men, just as long as they seek out equal education, the exact same occupation, the exact same job description, and work the exact same hours every week. That's how equality works, folks.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QcDrE5YvqTs
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1oqyrflOQFc
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=13XU4fMlN3w
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IE29WXXT17Q&t=144s
http://www.consad.com/content/reports...
http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001...
http://money.howstuffworks.com/gender...
http://www.bloomberg.com/news/2012-08...
http://www.forbes.com/sites/realspin/...
http://blogs.telegraph.co.uk/news/dav...
http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-505125_16...
http://www.marketwatch.com/story/the-...
http://www.businessinsider.com/actual...
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/christi...
http://oratorasaurus.tumblr.com/post/...
http://tgjesusfreak.tumblr.com/post/5...
http://wwww.examiner.com/x-22884-Cana...
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/comment/co...
http://www.nytimes.com/2010/09/22/opi...
http://www.americanthinker.com/2010/0...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qa3pKN...
http://www.nytimes.com/2010/02/06/bus...
http://www.zerohedge.com/news/biggest...
http://economix.blogs.nytimes.com/201...
http://www.businessinsider.com/women-...
http://www.reuters.com/article/domest...
http://abcnews.go.com/print?id=10630664
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/08/03/nyr...
http://www.ksee24.com/news/local/Youn...
http://www.time.com/time/business/art...
http://www.forbes.com/sites/jennagoud...
http://www.womensviewsonnews.org/2011...
http://edition.cnn.com/2005/BUSINESS/...
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/23413243
http://www.cnn.com/2007/US/Careers/06...
http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2...
http://www.sify.com/news/women-stay-a...
http://www.science20.com/news_article...
http://social.dol.gov/blog/myth-busti...
http://www.payscale.com/career-news/2...
Well, here's the thing about that 77 cents per every dollar statistic: there's a LOT it doesn't tell you. First and foremost, this figure was calculated by dividing the average yearly earnings of women and men working full time. It did not take into account occupations, different job positions, education, or hours worked per week. In fact, the feminist organization American Association of University Women (AAUW) found that when you take all of these factors into account, the pay-gap shrinks to 93.4 cents. Since that number represents an average, that means it is a median between higher and lower numbers, which means that--gasp--there are women who make 1 dollar for every 1 dollar a man makes! The other 6.6 cents that women aren't making can be explained almost entirely from their own personal career choices.
Here are some of the important facts that are not being discussed in regards to women's earnings:
-Women generally work less hours than men
-Women generally take lower-paying positions than men
-Women generally major in lower-paying careers than men when studying at a university
-Women who start a family generally don't receive paid maternity leave (which, to be honest, is an issue of corporate greed, not sexism. If a man asked off for an extended period of time, you can bet that his company isn't going to pay him for not working)
These are all choices that women make, not the choices that the 'patriarchy' makes for them. Of course there are many people who will tell you that "internalized oppression" and "internalized misogyny" are what's keeping women from earning as much as men. Modern feminists and SJWs will insist that women's choices aren't truly free because they're so unaware of their own oppression. I think that this is an extremely unfair assertion to make, because I know for a fact that women are self-sufficient and determined enough to be equally successful (if not more) to any man. Assuming that they're not actually making free choices because society has conditioned them to be subservient to men is more toxic than the wage-gap myth itself. This ideology itself takes more power away from women then anything else, because it's essentially saying that any success (or lack thereof) a woman has in her life has already been predetermined by male oppression, not the result of her own volition, determination, mistakes, or personal setbacks that have absolutely nothing to do with men.
Now, in my "All Lives Matter" post I referenced the Equal Pay Act that was established in the 1960s, which is a federal law that forces companies to pay their workers equally, regardless of sex, race, religion, or sexual orientation. If a company is honestly paying you less than your male counterparts for the exact same job, then you have legal standing for a civil suit. However, also think about this: why would a company risk a lawsuit over something like the cost of labor? They care about that bottom line (not to mention their public image), and it would be a financial and social catastrophe if a woman called them out for breaking federal law.
Lastly, ask yourself this question: if a company could actually get away with paying women a lesser wage for the same amount of work that a man does, why wouldn't they just hire all women? Going back to that bottom line they care about, they'd save a fortune from the ease of the cost of labor (not to mention they'd increase efficiency) if this was possible. The truth is, is that it's not that simple. The wage gap isn't real, but the earnings gap certainly is. Even so, when you do consider the individual choices that women and men make while being educated for their career, seeking out work, and working full time, you'll find that the gap actually has nothing to do with discrimination. It has nothing to do with women 'not actually making their own free choices', and it has nothing to do with societal pressures or favoritism towards men. Women are perfectly capable of earning the same amount as men, just as long as they seek out equal education, the exact same occupation, the exact same job description, and work the exact same hours every week. That's how equality works, folks.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QcDrE5YvqTs
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1oqyrflOQFc
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=13XU4fMlN3w
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IE29WXXT17Q&t=144s
http://www.consad.com/content/reports...
http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001...
http://money.howstuffworks.com/gender...
http://www.bloomberg.com/news/2012-08...
http://www.forbes.com/sites/realspin/...
http://blogs.telegraph.co.uk/news/dav...
http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-505125_16...
http://www.marketwatch.com/story/the-...
http://www.businessinsider.com/actual...
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/christi...
http://oratorasaurus.tumblr.com/post/...
http://tgjesusfreak.tumblr.com/post/5...
http://wwww.examiner.com/x-22884-Cana...
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/comment/co...
http://www.nytimes.com/2010/09/22/opi...
http://www.americanthinker.com/2010/0...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qa3pKN...
http://www.nytimes.com/2010/02/06/bus...
http://www.zerohedge.com/news/biggest...
http://economix.blogs.nytimes.com/201...
http://www.businessinsider.com/women-...
http://www.reuters.com/article/domest...
http://abcnews.go.com/print?id=10630664
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/08/03/nyr...
http://www.ksee24.com/news/local/Youn...
http://www.time.com/time/business/art...
http://www.forbes.com/sites/jennagoud...
http://www.womensviewsonnews.org/2011...
http://edition.cnn.com/2005/BUSINESS/...
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/23413243
http://www.cnn.com/2007/US/Careers/06...
http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2...
http://www.sify.com/news/women-stay-a...
http://www.science20.com/news_article...
http://social.dol.gov/blog/myth-busti...
http://www.payscale.com/career-news/2...
Tuesday, March 28, 2017
How Many Genders Even Are There Even?
2.
There are TWO genders. Male. Female. That's it. If you were born with XY chromosomes, you're biologically male. If you were born with XX chromosomes, you're biologically female. This isn't right-wing propaganda, this isn't a Catholic school oppressing your gender expression, this is science.
Now, of course there are people who are trans-gender, but emphasis on TRANS-gender, meaning they're transitioning from one of the two genders to the opposite. They're not a separate, third gender. And neither are people who are intersex: yes they have both male and female genitalia, but their DNA still has an XX or XY chromosome to determine their sex.
Gender is a biological construct, not a social one. Gender roles are enforced by our primal instincts and biology, not society at large. We are genetically, hormonally, and neurologically driven to act according to our gender; society didn't just make up these arbitrary rules to confine us to certain behaviors.
All of these new fake genders being pushed by SJWs and feminists are not scientifically valid, and are not recognized by anyone other than the far left as being real. I mean, just think about it: all humans are born with genitalia, so how can someone be agender, genderless, non-binary, or greygender? We were clearly assigned a gender at birth (by our DNA, not doctors) so identifying as having no gender is highly illogical.
Think about this: we were assigned with one unchangeable gender in utero, so how can someone be gender fluid, pangender, bigender, or polygender? You can't just change your biological make-up whenever you feel like it. A trans-woman can change her genitals and take hormone supplements to give her a more feminine figure, but she is still biologically male, and she will be for the rest of her life. She can't just decide to be a woman one day and then her body just follows suit and magically alters its DNA from XY to XX.
And then, whenever I hear someone say that you can all of these genders or none of them at the same time, their whole argument just falls to pieces. You can't have no gender and be bi-gendered at the same time. Like, what even is this? How did the left conflate gender expression to be the equivalent of gender itself? They're not the same thing. At all. If you are a biological woman, but you like to wear men's clothing, then you're not gender-fluid, bi-gender, or a trans-man: you're a tomboy. If you're a biological man who likes to wear women's clothing, you're a drag queen/cross-dresser. You have not invented a new gender by not being traditionally masculine or feminine.
How you choose to express yourself is completely up to you. I'm not here to debate that. But what annoys me the most about these fake genders is that the people who attach themselves to them say it's trans-phobic to not see their 'gender' as real, even though they are not actually transgender. They claim that their labels and gender identity aren't hurting anyone, but it actually makes the general public take transgendered people less seriously because all they see are SJWs throwing around these arbitrary labels and trying to pass them off as scientific fact. It does not promote the very real fact that being transgender is a medical diagnosis, not something you just randomly decide one day.
Lastly, I wanted to wrap this up by pointing out that these new Tumblr-generated fake-genders are not associated with anyone who's not an SJW, a third-wave feminist, or liberal. These 'genders' exist only in the realm of politics, not science. Therefore, my initial point still stands: there are 2 genders. There are thousands of ways to express yourself, and you are not obligated to act a certain way based on your genitalia or chromosomes, but at the end of the day you are still biologically male or female. That's how humans were created. Deal with it.
There are TWO genders. Male. Female. That's it. If you were born with XY chromosomes, you're biologically male. If you were born with XX chromosomes, you're biologically female. This isn't right-wing propaganda, this isn't a Catholic school oppressing your gender expression, this is science.
Now, of course there are people who are trans-gender, but emphasis on TRANS-gender, meaning they're transitioning from one of the two genders to the opposite. They're not a separate, third gender. And neither are people who are intersex: yes they have both male and female genitalia, but their DNA still has an XX or XY chromosome to determine their sex.
Gender is a biological construct, not a social one. Gender roles are enforced by our primal instincts and biology, not society at large. We are genetically, hormonally, and neurologically driven to act according to our gender; society didn't just make up these arbitrary rules to confine us to certain behaviors.
All of these new fake genders being pushed by SJWs and feminists are not scientifically valid, and are not recognized by anyone other than the far left as being real. I mean, just think about it: all humans are born with genitalia, so how can someone be agender, genderless, non-binary, or greygender? We were clearly assigned a gender at birth (by our DNA, not doctors) so identifying as having no gender is highly illogical.
Think about this: we were assigned with one unchangeable gender in utero, so how can someone be gender fluid, pangender, bigender, or polygender? You can't just change your biological make-up whenever you feel like it. A trans-woman can change her genitals and take hormone supplements to give her a more feminine figure, but she is still biologically male, and she will be for the rest of her life. She can't just decide to be a woman one day and then her body just follows suit and magically alters its DNA from XY to XX.
And then, whenever I hear someone say that you can all of these genders or none of them at the same time, their whole argument just falls to pieces. You can't have no gender and be bi-gendered at the same time. Like, what even is this? How did the left conflate gender expression to be the equivalent of gender itself? They're not the same thing. At all. If you are a biological woman, but you like to wear men's clothing, then you're not gender-fluid, bi-gender, or a trans-man: you're a tomboy. If you're a biological man who likes to wear women's clothing, you're a drag queen/cross-dresser. You have not invented a new gender by not being traditionally masculine or feminine.
How you choose to express yourself is completely up to you. I'm not here to debate that. But what annoys me the most about these fake genders is that the people who attach themselves to them say it's trans-phobic to not see their 'gender' as real, even though they are not actually transgender. They claim that their labels and gender identity aren't hurting anyone, but it actually makes the general public take transgendered people less seriously because all they see are SJWs throwing around these arbitrary labels and trying to pass them off as scientific fact. It does not promote the very real fact that being transgender is a medical diagnosis, not something you just randomly decide one day.
Lastly, I wanted to wrap this up by pointing out that these new Tumblr-generated fake-genders are not associated with anyone who's not an SJW, a third-wave feminist, or liberal. These 'genders' exist only in the realm of politics, not science. Therefore, my initial point still stands: there are 2 genders. There are thousands of ways to express yourself, and you are not obligated to act a certain way based on your genitalia or chromosomes, but at the end of the day you are still biologically male or female. That's how humans were created. Deal with it.
Thursday, March 23, 2017
Am I Doing This 'Male Privilege' Thing Right?
So, I've been hearing a lot from the social justice movement that men are not systematically oppressed based on their gender. We must fight for women's rights only, because men do not need any further support from society. You have to be a feminist, not a male rights activist. It's just wrong.
Well, I don't know about the rest of the male population, but I certainly have not been gliding through life. I've endured sexual harassment, bullying (online and personal), depression, anxiety, I've even considered suicide (to the point where I wrote two suicide letters when I was 12). Where were all of my supposed male privileges? Hearing SJWs and third-wave feminists talk, my life should've been filled with luxury. If being a man is the ultimate privilege, then the white male oppressive patriarchy is doing a terrible job at giving me those wonderful benefits. Even now, my female co-workers make more than I do for the exact same job, I'm still a middle-class citizen with no health insurance (or a car), I'm drowning in student loans, and a shitty efficiency apartment is the only thing I could afford to live in. It's not like I'm just sitting in a mansion eating chocolates all day while the government hands me free money just because I'm a man.
Despite all these things, apparently I'm still more privileged than any woman in the 1st world. That's right, I'm more privileged than Oprah Winfrey, JK Rowling, Angela Merkel, Taylor Swift, Beyonce, The Kardashians, Paris Hilton, and even The Queen of England, all just because I'm male!
Sarcasm aside, when you put societal attitudes and systematic trends towards men under a microscope, you'll find very quickly that being a man isn't easy at all. Let's run down the list, shall we?
-Boys receive much harsher punishment than girls do for bad behavior
-Men lose more of their money/possessions in divorce proceedings
-Men lose custody of their kids more often
-Men are more likely to be the target of every single violent crime (this includes murder, assault, robbery and yes, even rape: more men are raped annually than women are now)
-Men are falling behind women in education (more women are accepted into colleges than men, they are also generally more educated than men are)
-Men are subjected to circumcision, women are not (true, the parents have a choice to not circumcise their child, but the keyword is their MALE child; no one would even think of circumcising a girl)
-Men automatically have to sign up for the selective service draft, while women do not
-Cancers related specifically to men do not receive nearly as much research funding as cancers that only afflict women
-Women have thousands of domestic abuse shelters, men only have one
-Men get longer prison sentences than women for the same crime
-Men make up the majority of the homeless population
-Men are more likely to be injured (and even killed) at work
-Men are more likely to commit suicide
Do none of these things matter? I mean, if these are my male privileges...yay me?
And then on top of all this, feminists and SJWs still make the argument that women have it worse in society, that male rights do not matter when compared to the "ardent needs" of women. I'm sorry, but no matter how hard you try to push the ideology that feminism benefits men (while simultaneously introducing society to gems like "#killallmen", the 'male tearz' mugs, "mansplaining" etc), the movement does not inherently fight for the very real systematic and social disadvantages that men face. Modern feminism diminishes the needs of men in favor of giving women the advantage, but it doesn't have to be that way. You can support men and women's rights at the same time, there doesn't have to be this hierarchy that's being pushed so hard by the left.
Lastly, I want you to really think about this for a moment: what's one right that men have in the first world that women do not? What severe societal (NOT biological) disadvantages do women have in the first world that men do not? Of course, I'm not saying that sexism doesn't exist (because it very well does), but prioritizing one gender over the other isn't going to dissolve it from society. Competition between men and women's rights only further promotes behavior of separation, it doesn't unite us in the fight for everyone to have equal opportunity for success and happiness. You can take this as me bashing feminism and the social justice movement (to be fair, though, they really do need to be criticized) but so far none of their grandstanding has done anything to improve society. You can say that I'm "mansplaining", "whitesplaining", "cis-splaining" or whatever, but therein lies the biggest problem: because I'm a man, absolutely none of this commentary is valid. Because I'm a man, I'm automatically a misogynist who needs to check my privilege and become a feminist. Because I'm a man, my very existence is toxic to women and I'll always be oppressing them.
I'm so privileged, aren't I?
Well, I don't know about the rest of the male population, but I certainly have not been gliding through life. I've endured sexual harassment, bullying (online and personal), depression, anxiety, I've even considered suicide (to the point where I wrote two suicide letters when I was 12). Where were all of my supposed male privileges? Hearing SJWs and third-wave feminists talk, my life should've been filled with luxury. If being a man is the ultimate privilege, then the white male oppressive patriarchy is doing a terrible job at giving me those wonderful benefits. Even now, my female co-workers make more than I do for the exact same job, I'm still a middle-class citizen with no health insurance (or a car), I'm drowning in student loans, and a shitty efficiency apartment is the only thing I could afford to live in. It's not like I'm just sitting in a mansion eating chocolates all day while the government hands me free money just because I'm a man.
Despite all these things, apparently I'm still more privileged than any woman in the 1st world. That's right, I'm more privileged than Oprah Winfrey, JK Rowling, Angela Merkel, Taylor Swift, Beyonce, The Kardashians, Paris Hilton, and even The Queen of England, all just because I'm male!
Sarcasm aside, when you put societal attitudes and systematic trends towards men under a microscope, you'll find very quickly that being a man isn't easy at all. Let's run down the list, shall we?
-Boys receive much harsher punishment than girls do for bad behavior
-Men lose more of their money/possessions in divorce proceedings
-Men lose custody of their kids more often
-Men are more likely to be the target of every single violent crime (this includes murder, assault, robbery and yes, even rape: more men are raped annually than women are now)
-Men are falling behind women in education (more women are accepted into colleges than men, they are also generally more educated than men are)
-Men are subjected to circumcision, women are not (true, the parents have a choice to not circumcise their child, but the keyword is their MALE child; no one would even think of circumcising a girl)
-Men automatically have to sign up for the selective service draft, while women do not
-Cancers related specifically to men do not receive nearly as much research funding as cancers that only afflict women
-Women have thousands of domestic abuse shelters, men only have one
-Men get longer prison sentences than women for the same crime
-Men make up the majority of the homeless population
-Men are more likely to be injured (and even killed) at work
-Men are more likely to commit suicide
Do none of these things matter? I mean, if these are my male privileges...yay me?
And then on top of all this, feminists and SJWs still make the argument that women have it worse in society, that male rights do not matter when compared to the "ardent needs" of women. I'm sorry, but no matter how hard you try to push the ideology that feminism benefits men (while simultaneously introducing society to gems like "#killallmen", the 'male tearz' mugs, "mansplaining" etc), the movement does not inherently fight for the very real systematic and social disadvantages that men face. Modern feminism diminishes the needs of men in favor of giving women the advantage, but it doesn't have to be that way. You can support men and women's rights at the same time, there doesn't have to be this hierarchy that's being pushed so hard by the left.
Lastly, I want you to really think about this for a moment: what's one right that men have in the first world that women do not? What severe societal (NOT biological) disadvantages do women have in the first world that men do not? Of course, I'm not saying that sexism doesn't exist (because it very well does), but prioritizing one gender over the other isn't going to dissolve it from society. Competition between men and women's rights only further promotes behavior of separation, it doesn't unite us in the fight for everyone to have equal opportunity for success and happiness. You can take this as me bashing feminism and the social justice movement (to be fair, though, they really do need to be criticized) but so far none of their grandstanding has done anything to improve society. You can say that I'm "mansplaining", "whitesplaining", "cis-splaining" or whatever, but therein lies the biggest problem: because I'm a man, absolutely none of this commentary is valid. Because I'm a man, I'm automatically a misogynist who needs to check my privilege and become a feminist. Because I'm a man, my very existence is toxic to women and I'll always be oppressing them.
I'm so privileged, aren't I?
Saturday, March 18, 2017
36 Questions Women Have For Men (BuzzFeedYellow) (Part 3/3)
Guys, I've only done 24 questions. I HAVE 12 MORE TO GO!!!!!
25. How does it feel to get kicked in the balls?
I don't know how you don't know this (oh yeah, the male anatomy escapes you), but it hurts like absolute hell. But not as much as answering these dumb questions.
26. Do you ever get tired of trying to be 'manly' all the time?
I'm a man...so no, I don't get tired of behaving like a man. Do you get tired of trying to be 'womanly' all the time? Oh wait I forgot, being a woman isn't a 'toxic' like being a man is. How silly of me to forget my so-called "privilege".
27. Why are you so afraid of gender equality?
I'm not. Aside from the frat-boy/man-whore crowd, only extremely conservative men and women don't believe in or support gender equality. The rest of us in modern Western civilization most certainly do support equality for all. Also, how presumptuous of you to assert that I'm afraid of gender equality because I'm a man. Like, I don't understand women's value in the world? Please, take several seats girl.
28. Why do I deserve to be paid less than you?
You don't...you're not...omg for real the "wage gap" has been debunked like a thousand times already.
29. In what world does 77 cents equal a dollar?
Not this one, honey.
30. In what world does 68 cents equal a dollar?
Whoa whoa where did that number come from? You can't just arbitrarily change facts just to fit your narrative. That's what Donald Trump does, and we all clearly know that he's no one to be associated with (I even hear that being the same gender as him is an awful affliction!)
31. How is that fair?
It's not. But again, the "wage gap" is a myth. So that's kind of a moot point, isn't it?
32. Why are you intimidated by a woman who makes more money than you?
Weren't you just complaining about how women make less than men? Now they can make more than men? Which is it? Either there's a wage gap that disadvantages women, or there isn't (there isn't, btw).
32a. That's awesome: more money!
Again, no man who's self-esteem is intact actually gives a shi-OH WHATEVER THIS IS HOPELESS
33. Why are opinionated women seen as bitches?
Women aren't being singled out as bitches just for having opinions (plus, women also criticize other women for-GOD DAMN HOW MANY TIMES DO I HAVE TO REPEAT THE SAME ARGUMENTS??)
34. When opinionated men are seen as bosses?
Gordon Ramsay isn't seen as a bitch? Simon Cowell isn't seen as a bitch? Donald Trump isn't seen as the second awakening of Satan? Sorry to burst your bubble, but anyone of any gender with a foul loudmouth is seen as annoying and cancerous.
35. Why aren't you speaking up when you hear your male friends behind closed doors make jokes that are offensive to women?
Ah, I see we again have the "only men do this behavior" fallacy going on. Look ladies, we have our friends for a reason. We talk to them about stuff we don't feel comfortable saying in public, regardless of how offensive it is or not. And don't you try to tell me that you don't make shitty remarks about men behind closed doors with your female friends, or that you don't make crude remarks about other women (hey there's that lovely argument again!)
36. Why are you so afraid of recognizing your own privilege?
What privilege? Name one right that men have in the first world that women do not. As a man, I'm going to lose custody of my kids (among other things) more in divorce cases, get harsher prison sentences, be the victim of a violent crime more, get my foreskin cut off without my permission...what am I not recognizing here? Men only have one domestic abuse shelter (in Arkansas), we get stolen from more, we're more likely to commit suicide than women...like what do you think life as a man is like? It's not an easy ride for us either.
36a. It doesn't mean you're a bad person. Just recognize it, and do something about it.
Why don't you recognize that women in the first world aren't living in a human rights hell-hole, and then we can talk about how I'm not going to do something about my so-called 'privilege'.
So, to recap: this line of questioning as attacked the way I sit, the way I talk, how much money I make, my interests, and my friends. All because I'm a man. But feminism doesn't promote sexism or hatred towards men. Sounds legit!
25. How does it feel to get kicked in the balls?
I don't know how you don't know this (oh yeah, the male anatomy escapes you), but it hurts like absolute hell. But not as much as answering these dumb questions.
26. Do you ever get tired of trying to be 'manly' all the time?
I'm a man...so no, I don't get tired of behaving like a man. Do you get tired of trying to be 'womanly' all the time? Oh wait I forgot, being a woman isn't a 'toxic' like being a man is. How silly of me to forget my so-called "privilege".
27. Why are you so afraid of gender equality?
I'm not. Aside from the frat-boy/man-whore crowd, only extremely conservative men and women don't believe in or support gender equality. The rest of us in modern Western civilization most certainly do support equality for all. Also, how presumptuous of you to assert that I'm afraid of gender equality because I'm a man. Like, I don't understand women's value in the world? Please, take several seats girl.
28. Why do I deserve to be paid less than you?
You don't...you're not...omg for real the "wage gap" has been debunked like a thousand times already.
29. In what world does 77 cents equal a dollar?
Not this one, honey.
30. In what world does 68 cents equal a dollar?
Whoa whoa where did that number come from? You can't just arbitrarily change facts just to fit your narrative. That's what Donald Trump does, and we all clearly know that he's no one to be associated with (I even hear that being the same gender as him is an awful affliction!)
31. How is that fair?
It's not. But again, the "wage gap" is a myth. So that's kind of a moot point, isn't it?
32. Why are you intimidated by a woman who makes more money than you?
Weren't you just complaining about how women make less than men? Now they can make more than men? Which is it? Either there's a wage gap that disadvantages women, or there isn't (there isn't, btw).
32a. That's awesome: more money!
Again, no man who's self-esteem is intact actually gives a shi-OH WHATEVER THIS IS HOPELESS
33. Why are opinionated women seen as bitches?
Women aren't being singled out as bitches just for having opinions (plus, women also criticize other women for-GOD DAMN HOW MANY TIMES DO I HAVE TO REPEAT THE SAME ARGUMENTS??)
34. When opinionated men are seen as bosses?
Gordon Ramsay isn't seen as a bitch? Simon Cowell isn't seen as a bitch? Donald Trump isn't seen as the second awakening of Satan? Sorry to burst your bubble, but anyone of any gender with a foul loudmouth is seen as annoying and cancerous.
35. Why aren't you speaking up when you hear your male friends behind closed doors make jokes that are offensive to women?
Ah, I see we again have the "only men do this behavior" fallacy going on. Look ladies, we have our friends for a reason. We talk to them about stuff we don't feel comfortable saying in public, regardless of how offensive it is or not. And don't you try to tell me that you don't make shitty remarks about men behind closed doors with your female friends, or that you don't make crude remarks about other women (hey there's that lovely argument again!)
36. Why are you so afraid of recognizing your own privilege?
What privilege? Name one right that men have in the first world that women do not. As a man, I'm going to lose custody of my kids (among other things) more in divorce cases, get harsher prison sentences, be the victim of a violent crime more, get my foreskin cut off without my permission...what am I not recognizing here? Men only have one domestic abuse shelter (in Arkansas), we get stolen from more, we're more likely to commit suicide than women...like what do you think life as a man is like? It's not an easy ride for us either.
36a. It doesn't mean you're a bad person. Just recognize it, and do something about it.
Why don't you recognize that women in the first world aren't living in a human rights hell-hole, and then we can talk about how I'm not going to do something about my so-called 'privilege'.
So, to recap: this line of questioning as attacked the way I sit, the way I talk, how much money I make, my interests, and my friends. All because I'm a man. But feminism doesn't promote sexism or hatred towards men. Sounds legit!
36 Questions Women Have For Men (BuzzFeedYellow) (Part 2/3)
Oh dear answering these questions in excruciating.
13. Why do you think that it's ok to harass women and make offensive comments about women, but when someone does it to your sister, it's not ok?
Do you like it when someone harasses and makes offensive comments towards your brother? This isn't a gendered issue (like any of the things discussed so far). We all make derogatory comments about people at some point in our lives, emphasis on OTHER PEOPLE. Unless you aren't fond of your family, no one sits around and lets their relatives be harassed.
14. How does it feel to interrupt me when I'm in the middle of making a point during a meeting?
Men are the only ones who actually do this? Women don't do this to other women, and men only interrupt women, not other men? To actually answer the question at hand: people always interrupt me whenever I'm speaking, so I guess I can't give you a response to this (then again I'm pretty sure this question was rhetorical anyway-- though it's still a pointless thing to ask regardless).
15. Why do you have to sit with your legs so wide open?
Because I have balls between my legs? Like, how wide-open am I actually sitting for this to be a problem? Unless I'm taking up two seats, you're fine. Even if I am taking up too much room, just tell me to make some room for you and I'll manage. Also, now I have to feel bad about my biological anatomy? The way I sit is a signal of male oppression and misogyny now? What the fuck even is this?
15a. I get that you have balls, but I don't stand around with my arms wide open to make room for my boobs.
You know, if my balls were on my chest and not between my legs, I wouldn't need to open my legs a little to make room for them. This point is completely invalid. Breasts distend past the point of your sides and are localized to your chest; there's no need for you to make room for them because they're not getting in the way of your arms in the first place.
16. Why are women perceived as the 'weaker sex', even though we literally birth you?
Going back to biology: men were made to be stronger than women so they could hunt for food and build shelter for their families. Women were made to gather fruits, plants, and other things needed inside the home and to be sensitive to the needs of their offspring. That's just the way it worked out. Just because you have the equipment to give birth, doesn't mean that your muscle mass, skin, or any other part of your body is as strong as or stronger than a man's. Also, the frat-boy/man-whore argument still stands: THEY perceive and promote you as the weaker sex, the rest of us are just trying to get along with you.
17. Why is it so bad to show your emotions?
It isn't. Once again, this is a construct that society places on ALL OF US, not just men. Women also perpetuate this idea in addition to men. I know we need to stress the fact that showing your emotions is normal and acceptable, but blaming men for this cultural norm isn't going to get us there.
17a. It means you're human
You're just preaching to the choir, honey. Most people of any gender would agree with this.
18. Why are you always trying to 'prove' your masculinity to me?
I thought women found muscles, confidence, emotional/mental stability, and leadership attractive in men? Doesn't it make sense that a man would flaunt these characteristics to a potential mate (like most male animals do in nature)? Once again, this isn't a social construct brought on by the patriarchy, it's biology. Natural selection weeds out the weak; but in order to do that, the strong must present themselves as such so that they can find a mate and reproduce to create stronger offspring. But screw human survival, I guess?
19. Why the fuck isn't it ladylike to cuss?
It's not courteous to swear no matter your gender or the situation. 'It's not ladylike to cuss' is not an ideal held-up by society: it's called 'common decency'.
19a. When did words get genders?
Other than pronouns (he, she, him, her, it, they, them), no words have a gender associated to them. Are you sure you should be asking these questions? It doesn't seem like you know what you're talking about.
20. Why is it your first instinct to doubt women who've been sexually violated, or raped?
One: 'accused' does not mean 'guilty', there's going to be some doubt from someone no matter what. Two: People have lost their jobs just because of accusations of sexual assault and rape (even after evidence proved they didn't do it). It isn't always everyone's first instinct.
Three: Assuming that all men and only men doubt rape victims is an over-generalization if I've ever heard one. Women doubt rape victims too. Women blame the victim too. This is not a gendered behavior, and it's not even a behavior that's prevalent among everyone in the world. Do you get out much?
21. Why do you assume that a woman's angry because she's on her period?
Am I missing something here? Isn't one of the unfortunate effects of the menstrual cycle irritability? I was under the impression that the increase in hormone levels, cramping, bloating, and the fact that blood is coming out of your vagina made women more susceptible to anger. Menstruating isn't an easy thing to go through, so I can understand if you're angry. Having a period doesn't make you angry all the time, and believe it or not, men actually know this! No man 'assumes' that your period is the reason for your anger (it's common knowledge that Aunt Flo only comes once a month, not the entire month). Maybe you should stop listening to trolls and stop making assumptions about men because of them?
22. Why do you think that women who wear make-up are false advertising?
I don't. Please refer to these aforementioned arguments: frat-boys/man-whores are the ones saying this shit, stop assuming all men think this way when you've only heard/seen this behavior from a relative few
22a. We could say the same thing about your dick size
Unless a man is walking around with a sign over his 4 inch dick that says "10 inch anaconda in here", no you can't.
23. Why isn't it weird that there's a bunch of old white men sitting in a room, making legislation about what I can and can't do with my body?
You mean those old white men in congress that were elected by men AND women into that position? It's not weird because that's how our legislative process works. If you have a problem with them, give them shit for their actions, not the rest of us who don't give a damn about your body and what you do with it.
23a. Do you have a coochie?
Um...they're men....so no? Either this is the worst rhetorical question ever made, or you don't know the male anatomy at all (actually, seeing that you were bitching about 'manspreading' earlier in the questionnaire, that wouldn't surprise me).
24. Why are straight guys so obsessed with lesbians?
Well let's see: straight guys are sexually attracted to girls (regardless of their sexuality). That's it. Or were you referring to lesbian porn? In that case: straight men are sexually attracted to girls (regardless of their sexuality). Also, I don't know what constitutes being "obsessed", but I can tell you that straight men aren't building shrines dedicated to lesbians or constantly following them around or talking their heads off. Just because you like something, doesn't mean you're obsessed with it.
13. Why do you think that it's ok to harass women and make offensive comments about women, but when someone does it to your sister, it's not ok?
Do you like it when someone harasses and makes offensive comments towards your brother? This isn't a gendered issue (like any of the things discussed so far). We all make derogatory comments about people at some point in our lives, emphasis on OTHER PEOPLE. Unless you aren't fond of your family, no one sits around and lets their relatives be harassed.
14. How does it feel to interrupt me when I'm in the middle of making a point during a meeting?
Men are the only ones who actually do this? Women don't do this to other women, and men only interrupt women, not other men? To actually answer the question at hand: people always interrupt me whenever I'm speaking, so I guess I can't give you a response to this (then again I'm pretty sure this question was rhetorical anyway-- though it's still a pointless thing to ask regardless).
15. Why do you have to sit with your legs so wide open?
Because I have balls between my legs? Like, how wide-open am I actually sitting for this to be a problem? Unless I'm taking up two seats, you're fine. Even if I am taking up too much room, just tell me to make some room for you and I'll manage. Also, now I have to feel bad about my biological anatomy? The way I sit is a signal of male oppression and misogyny now? What the fuck even is this?
15a. I get that you have balls, but I don't stand around with my arms wide open to make room for my boobs.
You know, if my balls were on my chest and not between my legs, I wouldn't need to open my legs a little to make room for them. This point is completely invalid. Breasts distend past the point of your sides and are localized to your chest; there's no need for you to make room for them because they're not getting in the way of your arms in the first place.
16. Why are women perceived as the 'weaker sex', even though we literally birth you?
Going back to biology: men were made to be stronger than women so they could hunt for food and build shelter for their families. Women were made to gather fruits, plants, and other things needed inside the home and to be sensitive to the needs of their offspring. That's just the way it worked out. Just because you have the equipment to give birth, doesn't mean that your muscle mass, skin, or any other part of your body is as strong as or stronger than a man's. Also, the frat-boy/man-whore argument still stands: THEY perceive and promote you as the weaker sex, the rest of us are just trying to get along with you.
17. Why is it so bad to show your emotions?
It isn't. Once again, this is a construct that society places on ALL OF US, not just men. Women also perpetuate this idea in addition to men. I know we need to stress the fact that showing your emotions is normal and acceptable, but blaming men for this cultural norm isn't going to get us there.
17a. It means you're human
You're just preaching to the choir, honey. Most people of any gender would agree with this.
18. Why are you always trying to 'prove' your masculinity to me?
I thought women found muscles, confidence, emotional/mental stability, and leadership attractive in men? Doesn't it make sense that a man would flaunt these characteristics to a potential mate (like most male animals do in nature)? Once again, this isn't a social construct brought on by the patriarchy, it's biology. Natural selection weeds out the weak; but in order to do that, the strong must present themselves as such so that they can find a mate and reproduce to create stronger offspring. But screw human survival, I guess?
19. Why the fuck isn't it ladylike to cuss?
It's not courteous to swear no matter your gender or the situation. 'It's not ladylike to cuss' is not an ideal held-up by society: it's called 'common decency'.
19a. When did words get genders?
Other than pronouns (he, she, him, her, it, they, them), no words have a gender associated to them. Are you sure you should be asking these questions? It doesn't seem like you know what you're talking about.
20. Why is it your first instinct to doubt women who've been sexually violated, or raped?
One: 'accused' does not mean 'guilty', there's going to be some doubt from someone no matter what. Two: People have lost their jobs just because of accusations of sexual assault and rape (even after evidence proved they didn't do it). It isn't always everyone's first instinct.
Three: Assuming that all men and only men doubt rape victims is an over-generalization if I've ever heard one. Women doubt rape victims too. Women blame the victim too. This is not a gendered behavior, and it's not even a behavior that's prevalent among everyone in the world. Do you get out much?
21. Why do you assume that a woman's angry because she's on her period?
Am I missing something here? Isn't one of the unfortunate effects of the menstrual cycle irritability? I was under the impression that the increase in hormone levels, cramping, bloating, and the fact that blood is coming out of your vagina made women more susceptible to anger. Menstruating isn't an easy thing to go through, so I can understand if you're angry. Having a period doesn't make you angry all the time, and believe it or not, men actually know this! No man 'assumes' that your period is the reason for your anger (it's common knowledge that Aunt Flo only comes once a month, not the entire month). Maybe you should stop listening to trolls and stop making assumptions about men because of them?
22. Why do you think that women who wear make-up are false advertising?
I don't. Please refer to these aforementioned arguments: frat-boys/man-whores are the ones saying this shit, stop assuming all men think this way when you've only heard/seen this behavior from a relative few
22a. We could say the same thing about your dick size
Unless a man is walking around with a sign over his 4 inch dick that says "10 inch anaconda in here", no you can't.
23. Why isn't it weird that there's a bunch of old white men sitting in a room, making legislation about what I can and can't do with my body?
You mean those old white men in congress that were elected by men AND women into that position? It's not weird because that's how our legislative process works. If you have a problem with them, give them shit for their actions, not the rest of us who don't give a damn about your body and what you do with it.
23a. Do you have a coochie?
Um...they're men....so no? Either this is the worst rhetorical question ever made, or you don't know the male anatomy at all (actually, seeing that you were bitching about 'manspreading' earlier in the questionnaire, that wouldn't surprise me).
24. Why are straight guys so obsessed with lesbians?
Well let's see: straight guys are sexually attracted to girls (regardless of their sexuality). That's it. Or were you referring to lesbian porn? In that case: straight men are sexually attracted to girls (regardless of their sexuality). Also, I don't know what constitutes being "obsessed", but I can tell you that straight men aren't building shrines dedicated to lesbians or constantly following them around or talking their heads off. Just because you like something, doesn't mean you're obsessed with it.
36 Questions Women Have For Men (BuzzFeedYellow) (Part 1/3)
So a year ago (damn I'm late to this party, aren't I?), BuzzFeedYellow released a video titled "36 Questions Women Have For Men". You can see the video (link down below), but it's ridiculous in every way (though I will admit: seeing the like:dislike ratio restored my faith in humanity a little). So, I got my brain ready for this test, and here are the answers to the burning questions that women just need to know.
1. How does it feel to be the same sex as Donald Trump?
I don't know, how does it feel to be the same sex as Sarah Palin, Michelle Bachmann, Ann Coulter, Tomi Lahren, KellyAnne Conway, Bloody Mary, Betsy DeVos, Kim Kardashian, Paris Hilton, Myra Hindley, Ilse Koch, Irma Grese, Katherine Knight, and Elizabeth Bathory? Personally, I like being a man; I like having a dick, balls, and a prostate. I don't give a crap if Donald Trump is a man too, he doesn't represent the billions of the other men in the world who don't act like he does.
2. Why do you hate Rom-Coms?
I don't.
2a. Or do you just feel like you need to hate them?
No...I'm sorry how is any of this important? Some men don't like Rom-Coms, so the fuck what? I know some women don't like action or horror films, but I don't hear men complaining about that.
2b. Everybody likes The Notebook, everybody likes Beyonce. It's just a fact.
Actually there are many people who don't like either. Nice try, though (also, when was Beyonce ever in a rom-com? I'm pretty sure 'Austin Powers: Goldmember', 'Obsessed', and 'The Pink Panther' don't fit into that genre).
3. Why do you make women sit around and talk about men in movies, when y'all easily sit around and talk about boobs for hours.
Um, how do the first and second parts of this question correlate to each other? First, only a small fraction of men do either of those particular things (sure they talk about boobs, but not "for hours"), and second, why is it bad that men talk about their interests with you? You know the whole world doesn't revolve around women's hobbies and vocations, right? It's give and take. Compromise. You both discuss what you want to discuss, even if the other person has no interest in it. This isn't something only men do. And neither is talking about sexualized parts of the human body (I'm looking at you, ladies who talk about dick size to your girlfriends).
4. Why do you automatically assume that you won't like TV or Movies that star a female lead?
I don't. The gender of the lead character doesn't mean shit to me (and most men). I mean, do you automatically assume that you won't like a TV show or movie that stars a male lead? Once again, this isn't a thought only men have (and not even the majority of men think this way).
5. Why are you surprised when women are funny?
I'm not. Some of the greatest comedians on Earth are female (Julia Louis-Dreyfus, Tina Fey, Amy Poehler, Mindy Kaling, iiSuperwomanii, Kathy Griffin, Joan Rivers, Lucille Ball, Carol Burnett, Jenna Marbles, Iliza Schlesinger, Melissa McCarthy, Maya Rudolph, Kristen Wiig, Mamrie Hart, etc.). Once again, how many men actually think that women aren't funny? There seems to be a lot of generalization going on here.
5a. I'm probably funnier than you
Going by the tone of this questionnaire so far, you seem to take things way too seriously. So yeah, I'm not going to take your word for that.
6. Why do you think that we're obsessed with you when we hook up?
Huh? What the...who are you talking to? A dousche-y frat-boy? Either I've been living under a rock, or you have never actually 'hooked-up' with a man before.
6a. 9 times out of 10, I just want you to leave too. I'm busy, I got shit to do.
Hold on, are you actually trying to argue that men think you're obsessed with them when you hook up, despite the fact that you want him to leave too? 'Too' implies also, which means that he wants to get out there just as much as you do. That's what 'hooking up' means, casual sexual activity without commitment or emotional attachment.
7. Why can't I sleep with as many people as I want to without being judged?
Is this questionnaire still directed at men? Cause I'm pretty damn sure that women are calling you a slut and judging you as well.
7a. When men do it, they're congratulated.
The only people congratulating man-whores are other man-whores and--gasp!--other women also congratulate them! This isn't a gendered behavior. The majority of society considers 'lady killers' and 'man eaters' as morally bankrupt, sexist pigs. It's disgusting behavior no matter which gender you are.
8. Why do you consider a women a 'tease' if she doesn't sleep with you after three dates, but a 'slut' if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Okay, are you even trying? We're not even a quarter of the way through this questionnaire and you've already lost the track. Say this with me: only douschey frat-boys and man-whores actually think this way. Also, this isn't gendered behavior either: women are also calling each other sluts for sleeping with a man too soon into the relationship. You seem to have a lot of misguided anger directed towards men, and I honestly don't even think you've ever talked to a real man before if you are seriously asking questions like this.
9. In what world does 'no' mean 'yes'?
Um, the one we're living in? Unless the dictionary changed the meaning of the word 'no' while I was asleep last night, I'm pretty no means what it has always meant.
9a. No means no
Again, this has already been established. Also, do I need to bring back the frat-boy/man-whore argument again? Because they're the ones who take advantage of women, not the rest of the male species who respect women, their choices, and their needs. Oh, and does this question extend to women as well? Cause they take advantage of people too, male or female. Women aren't this infallible sub-group of humanity that hold all of the qualities that men lack.
10. Why do you say that women are 'too emotional' to be leaders, then justify cat-calling by saying that 'men just can't control themselves'?
Frat boys. Man whores. THOSE ARE THE PEOPLE THAT ACTUALLY DO THIS SHIT. Any self-respecting man with half a decent mind doesn't care worry about women's sensitivity affecting their leadership. Anyone that is overly emotional isn't fit to be a leader; they lack the objectivity and mental strength required of the position. This isn't a woman-only issue.
11. Why do you think that just because you're nice to me, I owe you my body?
Ok, at least you're bringing awareness to 'Nice-Guy Syndrome'! These small sub-set of men (cough Shawn Mendes cough) is annoying as shit, not just to women but to the rest of the male population who would actually take the time to know a girl and connect with her somehow before they hit the sheets. The 'nice-guy' is a stereotype, not a representation of men in general.
12. Why would you ever send an unsolicited dick pick?
Only frat boys and man-whores do this shi-OH FUCK IT YOU'RE NOT EVEN LISTENING
1. How does it feel to be the same sex as Donald Trump?
I don't know, how does it feel to be the same sex as Sarah Palin, Michelle Bachmann, Ann Coulter, Tomi Lahren, KellyAnne Conway, Bloody Mary, Betsy DeVos, Kim Kardashian, Paris Hilton, Myra Hindley, Ilse Koch, Irma Grese, Katherine Knight, and Elizabeth Bathory? Personally, I like being a man; I like having a dick, balls, and a prostate. I don't give a crap if Donald Trump is a man too, he doesn't represent the billions of the other men in the world who don't act like he does.
2. Why do you hate Rom-Coms?
I don't.
2a. Or do you just feel like you need to hate them?
No...I'm sorry how is any of this important? Some men don't like Rom-Coms, so the fuck what? I know some women don't like action or horror films, but I don't hear men complaining about that.
2b. Everybody likes The Notebook, everybody likes Beyonce. It's just a fact.
Actually there are many people who don't like either. Nice try, though (also, when was Beyonce ever in a rom-com? I'm pretty sure 'Austin Powers: Goldmember', 'Obsessed', and 'The Pink Panther' don't fit into that genre).
3. Why do you make women sit around and talk about men in movies, when y'all easily sit around and talk about boobs for hours.
Um, how do the first and second parts of this question correlate to each other? First, only a small fraction of men do either of those particular things (sure they talk about boobs, but not "for hours"), and second, why is it bad that men talk about their interests with you? You know the whole world doesn't revolve around women's hobbies and vocations, right? It's give and take. Compromise. You both discuss what you want to discuss, even if the other person has no interest in it. This isn't something only men do. And neither is talking about sexualized parts of the human body (I'm looking at you, ladies who talk about dick size to your girlfriends).
4. Why do you automatically assume that you won't like TV or Movies that star a female lead?
I don't. The gender of the lead character doesn't mean shit to me (and most men). I mean, do you automatically assume that you won't like a TV show or movie that stars a male lead? Once again, this isn't a thought only men have (and not even the majority of men think this way).
5. Why are you surprised when women are funny?
I'm not. Some of the greatest comedians on Earth are female (Julia Louis-Dreyfus, Tina Fey, Amy Poehler, Mindy Kaling, iiSuperwomanii, Kathy Griffin, Joan Rivers, Lucille Ball, Carol Burnett, Jenna Marbles, Iliza Schlesinger, Melissa McCarthy, Maya Rudolph, Kristen Wiig, Mamrie Hart, etc.). Once again, how many men actually think that women aren't funny? There seems to be a lot of generalization going on here.
5a. I'm probably funnier than you
Going by the tone of this questionnaire so far, you seem to take things way too seriously. So yeah, I'm not going to take your word for that.
6. Why do you think that we're obsessed with you when we hook up?
Huh? What the...who are you talking to? A dousche-y frat-boy? Either I've been living under a rock, or you have never actually 'hooked-up' with a man before.
6a. 9 times out of 10, I just want you to leave too. I'm busy, I got shit to do.
Hold on, are you actually trying to argue that men think you're obsessed with them when you hook up, despite the fact that you want him to leave too? 'Too' implies also, which means that he wants to get out there just as much as you do. That's what 'hooking up' means, casual sexual activity without commitment or emotional attachment.
7. Why can't I sleep with as many people as I want to without being judged?
Is this questionnaire still directed at men? Cause I'm pretty damn sure that women are calling you a slut and judging you as well.
7a. When men do it, they're congratulated.
The only people congratulating man-whores are other man-whores and--gasp!--other women also congratulate them! This isn't a gendered behavior. The majority of society considers 'lady killers' and 'man eaters' as morally bankrupt, sexist pigs. It's disgusting behavior no matter which gender you are.
8. Why do you consider a women a 'tease' if she doesn't sleep with you after three dates, but a 'slut' if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Okay, are you even trying? We're not even a quarter of the way through this questionnaire and you've already lost the track. Say this with me: only douschey frat-boys and man-whores actually think this way. Also, this isn't gendered behavior either: women are also calling each other sluts for sleeping with a man too soon into the relationship. You seem to have a lot of misguided anger directed towards men, and I honestly don't even think you've ever talked to a real man before if you are seriously asking questions like this.
9. In what world does 'no' mean 'yes'?
Um, the one we're living in? Unless the dictionary changed the meaning of the word 'no' while I was asleep last night, I'm pretty no means what it has always meant.
9a. No means no
Again, this has already been established. Also, do I need to bring back the frat-boy/man-whore argument again? Because they're the ones who take advantage of women, not the rest of the male species who respect women, their choices, and their needs. Oh, and does this question extend to women as well? Cause they take advantage of people too, male or female. Women aren't this infallible sub-group of humanity that hold all of the qualities that men lack.
10. Why do you say that women are 'too emotional' to be leaders, then justify cat-calling by saying that 'men just can't control themselves'?
Frat boys. Man whores. THOSE ARE THE PEOPLE THAT ACTUALLY DO THIS SHIT. Any self-respecting man with half a decent mind doesn't care worry about women's sensitivity affecting their leadership. Anyone that is overly emotional isn't fit to be a leader; they lack the objectivity and mental strength required of the position. This isn't a woman-only issue.
11. Why do you think that just because you're nice to me, I owe you my body?
Ok, at least you're bringing awareness to 'Nice-Guy Syndrome'! These small sub-set of men (cough Shawn Mendes cough) is annoying as shit, not just to women but to the rest of the male population who would actually take the time to know a girl and connect with her somehow before they hit the sheets. The 'nice-guy' is a stereotype, not a representation of men in general.
12. Why would you ever send an unsolicited dick pick?
Only frat boys and man-whores do this shi-OH FUCK IT YOU'RE NOT EVEN LISTENING
Tuesday, March 14, 2017
All Lives Matter
"All Lives Matter" is a dirty phrase. I've seen the memes, the rants, the videos, etc. about how only racists use this phrase to de-legitimize the struggles of minority lives. There's no possible way that anyone else other than a right-wing bigot can even think of saying this dirty phrase, right? Basically, saying "All Lives Matter" is like saying "Shut up you insignificant minority life your struggles aren't real stop trying to make people care about the needs of your race". Point blank. I'm right. The end!
Only it's not that simple. One thing that SJWs love to do is argue over the definition of words and phrases, trying to re-define them for a modern era that's more friendly to third wave feminism and "progressive" views. We see them do this with the dictionary definitions of "racism", "sexism", even "feminism" itself (and believe me, that topic will be covered in the near future), and then we see them do it with phrases like "All Lives Matter", persuading us to believe that doesn't mean what it literally says.
Now, I am fully aware that the right-wing loves to use this argument whenever issues of minority lives come up. And I will even agree that they abuse the phrase "All Lives Matter" whenever they are approached by Black Lives Matter personnel, because it's not a sound rebuttal. Just saying the phrase doesn't make the issue go away, and it's very clear that they're saying only to qualm the opposition; they don't actually believe that all lives matter, it's just a cop-out.
But, let's dissociate the phrase from who it's most commonly used by for just a minute. Taking away the context of rebuttal or squashing the opponent, "All Lives Matter" as a stand-alone phrase is not as racist or otherwise insensitive as you might believe. Literally, it is implying that, well, all lives carry value in equal measures. It is not saying that one group of lives is more important than another, and consequently, the struggles that they face. And this goes both ways: white struggles aren't more important than black struggles, but the opposite is also true. Here's something to keep in mind: we're all struggling here. Everyone currently living or that has lived before us has to endure the hardships that come with being human. We're all susceptible to the same diseases, we're all capable of the same behaviors, we're all being threatened by natural disasters and the earth's ever changing climates. Of course, the particulars of our struggles vary depending on location, socio-economic status etc. but saying that we have to prioritize the struggles of one specific subset of humanity over the others is not okay.
I say that like I believe the Black Lives Matter movement is trying to do that, don't I? Well...how am I wrong? I am sure that there are people within the movement that actually do want to improve race relations, that come from the perspective that black lives matter too. But far too often I witness black people engaging in violent acts against white people just because of their skin color (which is racist, btw), or I see protesters interrupting LGBTQIA parades in order to push BLM ideology. Those are just a couple of examples; you can obviously search the internet yourself to see these things unfold, but I will provide some of my own links down below as a starting point. Anyway, from where I'm standing, the whole premise of BLM seems to be predicated on completely overthrowing the "white male oppressive patriarchy" and getting revenge for every black person that has ever lived in America. I don't see these protestors being aware of the fact that black (and pretty much all minority) lives matter a hell of a lot more now than they did just fifty years ago. There's no more segregation in schools, bathrooms, busses, or other public places, minorities can vote, minorities can go to higher learning institutions (and receive scholarships/grants to aid them financially), minorities can become doctors, lawyers, engineers, scientists, professors, politicians, or have any other career of their choosing. That's not to say that it's easy to obtain those positions (it's not 'easy' for anyone, regardless of skin color), but it's not impossible either. Affirmative Action is in place to further help minorities attain jobs; the Equal Pay Act and Equal Rights Act have been federally enforced for decades now.
Now, I am in no way saying that racism doesn't exist, because it still very well does. Anyone who is maliciously targeted based solely on their skin color should stand up for themselves. But instead of automatically blaming white people for every struggle that minority groups face, why don't we take into account their own choices/actions before we point the finger, ok?
Anyway, my point here is that all lives do matter: White, Black, Hispanic/Latino, Asian, Arab, Australian, religious, atheist, LGBTQIA etc. Whatever attributes you have, they're just as important as the person next to you. In the literal and truest sense of the phrase "All Lives Matter", we are all equal and deserve the same amount of respect. If you want to bring attention to an issue that minorities face (such as racial profiling, for example), that's fine, but you cannot make the assertion that it's more pressing of an issue than anything else, because like I said before, we're all here on one planet living life as one species. Either we're equal to each other, or we aren't.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kT2e8RIcXNM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8oCWfzxjftM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pnaw4I_WUaE
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x5KMYSswTqQ
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ykglh2oxGWs
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3802230/War-zone-Charlotte-White-man-begs-mercy-beaten-reporter-nearly-dragged-fire-rioters-people-told-stay-home-work-police-shooting-black-father.html
http://theblacksphere.net/2017/02/black-lives-matter-leader-calls-white-people-subhuman-inferior/
http://www.dailywire.com/news/8577/men-chanting-black-lives-matter-beat-seven-white-james-barrett
Only it's not that simple. One thing that SJWs love to do is argue over the definition of words and phrases, trying to re-define them for a modern era that's more friendly to third wave feminism and "progressive" views. We see them do this with the dictionary definitions of "racism", "sexism", even "feminism" itself (and believe me, that topic will be covered in the near future), and then we see them do it with phrases like "All Lives Matter", persuading us to believe that doesn't mean what it literally says.
Now, I am fully aware that the right-wing loves to use this argument whenever issues of minority lives come up. And I will even agree that they abuse the phrase "All Lives Matter" whenever they are approached by Black Lives Matter personnel, because it's not a sound rebuttal. Just saying the phrase doesn't make the issue go away, and it's very clear that they're saying only to qualm the opposition; they don't actually believe that all lives matter, it's just a cop-out.
But, let's dissociate the phrase from who it's most commonly used by for just a minute. Taking away the context of rebuttal or squashing the opponent, "All Lives Matter" as a stand-alone phrase is not as racist or otherwise insensitive as you might believe. Literally, it is implying that, well, all lives carry value in equal measures. It is not saying that one group of lives is more important than another, and consequently, the struggles that they face. And this goes both ways: white struggles aren't more important than black struggles, but the opposite is also true. Here's something to keep in mind: we're all struggling here. Everyone currently living or that has lived before us has to endure the hardships that come with being human. We're all susceptible to the same diseases, we're all capable of the same behaviors, we're all being threatened by natural disasters and the earth's ever changing climates. Of course, the particulars of our struggles vary depending on location, socio-economic status etc. but saying that we have to prioritize the struggles of one specific subset of humanity over the others is not okay.
I say that like I believe the Black Lives Matter movement is trying to do that, don't I? Well...how am I wrong? I am sure that there are people within the movement that actually do want to improve race relations, that come from the perspective that black lives matter too. But far too often I witness black people engaging in violent acts against white people just because of their skin color (which is racist, btw), or I see protesters interrupting LGBTQIA parades in order to push BLM ideology. Those are just a couple of examples; you can obviously search the internet yourself to see these things unfold, but I will provide some of my own links down below as a starting point. Anyway, from where I'm standing, the whole premise of BLM seems to be predicated on completely overthrowing the "white male oppressive patriarchy" and getting revenge for every black person that has ever lived in America. I don't see these protestors being aware of the fact that black (and pretty much all minority) lives matter a hell of a lot more now than they did just fifty years ago. There's no more segregation in schools, bathrooms, busses, or other public places, minorities can vote, minorities can go to higher learning institutions (and receive scholarships/grants to aid them financially), minorities can become doctors, lawyers, engineers, scientists, professors, politicians, or have any other career of their choosing. That's not to say that it's easy to obtain those positions (it's not 'easy' for anyone, regardless of skin color), but it's not impossible either. Affirmative Action is in place to further help minorities attain jobs; the Equal Pay Act and Equal Rights Act have been federally enforced for decades now.
Now, I am in no way saying that racism doesn't exist, because it still very well does. Anyone who is maliciously targeted based solely on their skin color should stand up for themselves. But instead of automatically blaming white people for every struggle that minority groups face, why don't we take into account their own choices/actions before we point the finger, ok?
Anyway, my point here is that all lives do matter: White, Black, Hispanic/Latino, Asian, Arab, Australian, religious, atheist, LGBTQIA etc. Whatever attributes you have, they're just as important as the person next to you. In the literal and truest sense of the phrase "All Lives Matter", we are all equal and deserve the same amount of respect. If you want to bring attention to an issue that minorities face (such as racial profiling, for example), that's fine, but you cannot make the assertion that it's more pressing of an issue than anything else, because like I said before, we're all here on one planet living life as one species. Either we're equal to each other, or we aren't.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kT2e8RIcXNM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8oCWfzxjftM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pnaw4I_WUaE
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x5KMYSswTqQ
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ykglh2oxGWs
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3802230/War-zone-Charlotte-White-man-begs-mercy-beaten-reporter-nearly-dragged-fire-rioters-people-told-stay-home-work-police-shooting-black-father.html
http://theblacksphere.net/2017/02/black-lives-matter-leader-calls-white-people-subhuman-inferior/
http://www.dailywire.com/news/8577/men-chanting-black-lives-matter-beat-seven-white-james-barrett
The Anti-Tumblr
Hello there, friends!
I'm Nick, a 23-year old white male who is a humanist and believes that all lives matter.
If you already haven't been triggered to death and have already started writing diatribes in the comments: stick around, it gets worse!
I think that third-wave feminism is bullshit, and that SJWs (social justice warriors) are like cancer and AIDS all mixed into one small group of petulant children (trapped in adult bodies).
Still here? Well I'm glad you've made it this far, but can you handle this next round of statements?
I consider myself a left-leaning centrist. I don't believe in the oppression of the "white straight christian male patriarchy". I think that we're all equally capable of the same behavior, and no one should get a free pass because of any of their superficial qualities such as skin color, religion, and yes, even gender. I'm not a feminist, I'm an egalitarian who fights for equal rights. Yes, there is a huge difference between the two.
Alright, now that we have those blasphemous ideologies out of the way, I will get around to why I'm here in the first place.
Before this blog, my main medium for social discourse was Facebook. I would post these long, passionate statuses about my opinions of the current social climate. I've been doing this since I was sixteen. But while transitioning into adulthood after college, I've been re-evaluating my political views and I've begun largely reject the things I was told in my staunchly liberal university. It actually makes me cringe to see the things I posted when I didn't know current social issues as much as I thought I did. Of course, I'm still learning to incorporate right-wing concepts into my perspective, but one thing I value very highly is knowledge. I'm a thinker; I like to question, explore, and understand the world around me. While I can do my research, I can't share my findings and interpretations without upsetting the belligerent left, who vehemently push their carefully constructed ideal onto others and declare it as the only way to live (under the guise of tolerance and acceptance). Not agreeing with these so-called "progressives" and "feminists" results in a flurry of hate speech, attacking your personality, opinions, thoughts, rhetoric, and sometimes, reason for existence. And then, when you tell them to stop attacking you, they tell you to stop playing the victim (even though playing the victim is what they do best).
Now, before I go any further, I'll give you some relief and flip the coin for a second. I'm not saying that the alt-right (a.k.a The Tea Party) is any better because they too have loud voices but small-minded understanding of the world. I do not pledge allegiance to one political party because neither side is as informed as they think they are. I'm not claiming to be the messiah of politics, here, but I at least am cognizant of the fact that nothing is one-sided, and you can't honestly say you're 'enlightened' or 'aware' until you have all the facts and have considered every side of the topic at hand.
With that said, I'll move on to why I'm calling this blog "The Anti-Tumblr". Basically, if you have any working knowledge of the internet, you might have come across the name or the actual website known as Tumblr. In a nutshell, it is the SJW mecca of the worldwide web. If you find hypocritical and illogical rants from the alt-left funny, then this is the website for you. But other than entertainment, this website is a toxic one because it's a place for like-minded people to build each other up through nonsensical, one-sided discourse. I want to provide some sort of antithesis to that. Like I said before, the point of this blog isn't to criticize one side of the spectrum, but to provide my own commentary from a central-minded point of view. You are free to comment whatever you'd like, and you can do it without the fear of persecution. I've adamantly said that no one should back down from alt-right radicals, and alt-left radicals are no longer an exception.
As this blog progresses, I plan on tackling a variety of social issues (big or small). Beware! Political correctness is not going to be my first priority in any thing I'll discuss.
Welcome to The Anti-Tumblr! Enter at your own risk.
I'm Nick, a 23-year old white male who is a humanist and believes that all lives matter.
If you already haven't been triggered to death and have already started writing diatribes in the comments: stick around, it gets worse!
I think that third-wave feminism is bullshit, and that SJWs (social justice warriors) are like cancer and AIDS all mixed into one small group of petulant children (trapped in adult bodies).
Still here? Well I'm glad you've made it this far, but can you handle this next round of statements?
I consider myself a left-leaning centrist. I don't believe in the oppression of the "white straight christian male patriarchy". I think that we're all equally capable of the same behavior, and no one should get a free pass because of any of their superficial qualities such as skin color, religion, and yes, even gender. I'm not a feminist, I'm an egalitarian who fights for equal rights. Yes, there is a huge difference between the two.
Alright, now that we have those blasphemous ideologies out of the way, I will get around to why I'm here in the first place.
Before this blog, my main medium for social discourse was Facebook. I would post these long, passionate statuses about my opinions of the current social climate. I've been doing this since I was sixteen. But while transitioning into adulthood after college, I've been re-evaluating my political views and I've begun largely reject the things I was told in my staunchly liberal university. It actually makes me cringe to see the things I posted when I didn't know current social issues as much as I thought I did. Of course, I'm still learning to incorporate right-wing concepts into my perspective, but one thing I value very highly is knowledge. I'm a thinker; I like to question, explore, and understand the world around me. While I can do my research, I can't share my findings and interpretations without upsetting the belligerent left, who vehemently push their carefully constructed ideal onto others and declare it as the only way to live (under the guise of tolerance and acceptance). Not agreeing with these so-called "progressives" and "feminists" results in a flurry of hate speech, attacking your personality, opinions, thoughts, rhetoric, and sometimes, reason for existence. And then, when you tell them to stop attacking you, they tell you to stop playing the victim (even though playing the victim is what they do best).
Now, before I go any further, I'll give you some relief and flip the coin for a second. I'm not saying that the alt-right (a.k.a The Tea Party) is any better because they too have loud voices but small-minded understanding of the world. I do not pledge allegiance to one political party because neither side is as informed as they think they are. I'm not claiming to be the messiah of politics, here, but I at least am cognizant of the fact that nothing is one-sided, and you can't honestly say you're 'enlightened' or 'aware' until you have all the facts and have considered every side of the topic at hand.
With that said, I'll move on to why I'm calling this blog "The Anti-Tumblr". Basically, if you have any working knowledge of the internet, you might have come across the name or the actual website known as Tumblr. In a nutshell, it is the SJW mecca of the worldwide web. If you find hypocritical and illogical rants from the alt-left funny, then this is the website for you. But other than entertainment, this website is a toxic one because it's a place for like-minded people to build each other up through nonsensical, one-sided discourse. I want to provide some sort of antithesis to that. Like I said before, the point of this blog isn't to criticize one side of the spectrum, but to provide my own commentary from a central-minded point of view. You are free to comment whatever you'd like, and you can do it without the fear of persecution. I've adamantly said that no one should back down from alt-right radicals, and alt-left radicals are no longer an exception.
As this blog progresses, I plan on tackling a variety of social issues (big or small). Beware! Political correctness is not going to be my first priority in any thing I'll discuss.
Welcome to The Anti-Tumblr! Enter at your own risk.
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